• ThirdWorldOrder@lemm.ee
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    6 months ago

    I had a girlfriend in my 20s that used to hook up with other girls. For some reason I never considered that cheating and never cared. No idea why it never bothered me.

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        6 months ago

        I’m in my early 40s with four kids now and that seems like way too much work lol. To be clear though, I definitely would have considered it cheating if she was with another dude. It was just with other women it wasn’t an issue at all for me.

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          6 months ago

          in that case you may have some unrealized homophobia, causing you to not view queer interactions as fully valid compared to straight interactions

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            lol what? Not sure what you read but I said I had no problem with my girlfriend with other girls.

            Furthermore I’ve hung out with tons of gay people. My brother was gay (died of fentanyl). Zero issues with whatever people want to do in their bedroom. None of my business anyway.

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              I think they mean some guys don’t consider 2 women having sex to be “real sex” so they don’t think it’s cheating.

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                Oh, im really not that deep. I don’t spend much time worrying about what others are doing for sex or intimacy.

                Some other user said it’s probably because I can’t compare myself to a girl, unlike another man, which is probably true.

                Appreciate you explaining what they probably meant by that comment as I was extremely confused

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      6 months ago

      Even in cases where it ends a relationship, there’s something slightly less bad about a partner cheating on you with a gender different than your own. “What do they have that I don’t have?? Oh, right, a vagina and boobs/a dick.”