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Cake day: June 27th, 2023

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  • I used to hang out on the dph subreddit and it was one of my favorite drug subs. A little bit depressing because of the side effects and how many of them had already suffered significant brain damage though.

    I miss the drug subs like /dph or /heroin. I read them for years since these very much interest me— there’s so much of the human experience I will never try— but I fear permanent side effects and am not much of the drug type anymore. If only I could try it and rewind time with the memories intact.

    Plus the dph memes are great.






  • Huh. I’ve been to all of those but Yokosuka, some as recently as a few months ago but also pre 2023, and I’ve found that almost everything I go to took card. I wonder if we somehow happen to only go to places that do/don’t take card and thus have totally different experiences with cash only.

    And yeah the toilets are great. Toto sells them in the US if you’re based here. A little expensive, but if you’re gonna live at your current place for a long time, it’s probably worth it.

    The bar sounds awesome, sheesh. That’s the cheapest tab of that size I’ve ever heard of. I buy most of my things while I’m there due to pricing, and even then I’m shocked at how damn cheap that is haha







  • I am a bit surprised to hear that’s how you feel about those things. I’m not completely neurotypical but I present that way, and I’m missing a lot of knowledge about most divergences. If you don’t mind my prying in turn: do you mean you feel shame when you score higher on an exam than someone else?

    Anyway yes, the other commenter nailed the primal urge to assert some form of dominance. Whether through instinct to better one’s tribal standing or society raising people to constantly beat other people in something, I think a lot of people feel some reflex to shit on 4chan’s OP even though he was just being honest and vulnerable. There should be little to no tribal advantage in a “higher standing” person acting that way. Nonetheless we still see children distancing themselves from bullied peers, or joining in on it to prove they’re part of the winning side so to speak. I strongly believe it’s due to base instincts from a time where being near the bottom was a large threat to one’s ability to reproduce.

    I said to the other guy that his negativity would benefit no one. In a progressive society where a person thinks about human progress instead of temporary satisfaction from “beating” someone else, this is completely true. The forward-thinking know that 4chan’s OP (and other downtrodden) can help move humanity forward, and Lemmy’s culture is progressive enough to not reward the primal desire. Without the approval of other self-minded individuals, he actually lost social standing, leading to a rare situation where truly no positives existed.

    Mostly unrelated and unwanted speculation, but when you say your life is so consistently in the shitter, I wonder if believing so is part of the neurodivergence since you’re definitely doing better than people who are proud. Being neurotypical isn’t objectively right— it’s just most common, and thus typical. I don’t know your life and I won’t make assumptions, but I wonder if you lack the self-minded instinct and thus don’t feel the need to be prideful. Taken to an extreme that could lead to a hurtful opinion of oneself. It’s just, I know you have value and I bet I’d find stuff to be proud of in your shoes.

    Sorry for waxing philosophical. I hope that was slightly useful anyway.


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    I googled girlfriend asmr and honestly it’s pretty cringe, the primal part of me really does wanna bully this dude. But I set that part aside because I try not to be an asshole for no reason, as it does not benefit anyone including myself. Even if we reflexively think these thoughts due to society and upbringing, we don’t have to give into them, much less spend real time introducing more negativity into the world by voicing them.

    I grew up in Texas with very traditional masculine bs. Some part of me would read what I just said and think “what a pussy”. But I promise you I’m much happier now that I’ve learned to set the negativity aside, and I like to think I make fewer people feel bad regularly. There is no downside to this because, well, there’s no real benefit to shitting on people who aren’t hurting anybody.



  • Hi op, thanks for making this. My opinions of Reddit aside, this is a neat app.

    Is it possible to open a link from Reddit in this app, maybe with a Safari extension? The mobile site is dogshit and, because old reddit threads often provide the most useful solutions, I sometimes find myself struggling against that unusable site.

    I’d also suggest having collapsible sub groups separate from subscriptions, like Alien Blue did, since you have an AB reference in the colors. Back then, I liked having that so I could have groups for news, hobbies, etc. But without having to see the whole list. Seeing AB there reminded me of a lot of great features that app had.


  • (Sorry for late response)

    Anyway yep, I know what you mean. It’s definitely reductive to say it like in the original image, even if it’s true. And it does lead to pounding pints of ice cream, which is typically counterproductive, unless you’re Rob McElhenney. Even then I think he tacitly stated he uses testosterone which somewhat allows for that.

    I very much appreciate your original comment for starting a useful discussion. Hopefully someday every discussion about weight gain or loss is balanced with useful advice and compassion. It’s such a hard thing, I frequently lament how we don’t have a better internal gauge of how much to eat :(


  • The length of your comment explicitly shows how such a process is _not_ “simply eat.” With peace and love you contradict yourself from the get go :) It’s quite a task.

    That’s actually why I said “not easy, but simple.” The task is simple, but it is hard. Benching 200lb is simple, but not easy. My comment could have been “I ate more and gained dozens of pounds” if I wasn’t so prone to long comments (most of mine are really long, I have mild ADHD hence which is also why I use so many parentheticals according to memes).

    I emphasize simplicity because, if your goal is merely gaining weight, for most it really is just eat more. The rest of my comment is my experience and my recommendations for gaining the weight healthily and in muscle mass vs just fat. The 4chan post is about getting fatter, so I mentioned my experience with weightlifting as an alternative. For the underweight, gaining just fat wouldn’t be unhealthy, but I would recommend the exercise.

    I have to somewhat disagree that simplifying it is harmful. An underweight person could eat the exact same thing every day, add a chunk of tofu, and gain weight. I personally believe it is actually better to acknowledge that the task is simple because that allows for the acknowledgment that the task of eating can be physically uncomfortable. Now of course, there are some who have health conditions worse than mine, but for the majority of underweight people this is the case.

    Btw I know you weren’t dissing the comment length, no worries, but I do wanna say why my comments go on for so long because I worry it can be associated with negative energy. If someday someone like younger me stumbles upon the comment, it was the most word efficient way I could condense the important information without, hopefully, reading in a boring manner. Over time I have developed this odd form of commenting wherein structure and sentence flow are considered alongside information. I want to be able to communicate without misunderstandings, have a fair balance of superfluous sayings and conversational feel, and minimize my chance of coming off as confrontational or rude. It’s not lost on me that this comment too could’ve been a single sentence: “it is simple, but not easy.” I think there’s still room for long form internet communication though, and I hope those who agree derive some enjoyment from the monologuing.


  • Isn’t it? I was underweight from (American units incoming) elementary school until college, BMI under 17.5. At some point I got serious about packing calories and exercising and I gained a ton of weight. Back on Reddit there was a sub called gainit where longtime underweight people, well, gained it.

    Now look, I don’t actually know if it was worth it. I don’t feel any different physically, despite being multiple times stronger than I was, nor do I feel healthier. I prefer the way I look now, but I actually hadn’t really noticed I was underweight until shortly before I started and I don’t spend too much time looking at myself. Almost no one commented on my thinness, and literally only one person ever did in a negative manner (saying I looked malnourished). Plus it was absolute misery packing bulk calories— when I finally got to cut the excess fat, it was delightful to return to a caloric deficit.

    But for me, and a lot of others, it really was that simple. Not easy, but simple.

    I also want to note that I have a lot of food allergies, making it difficult to eat high calorie fast food. To make matters worse I prefer lower calorie foods, almost 100% of the time I’ll take a no-protein salad over high calorie pasta or high protein chicken dishes. And finally I had to rely on small amounts of THC to block nausea while eating because I have a tiny stomach. The odds were stacked against me and I still don’t enjoy the amount of eating I have to do.

    Anyone underweight reading this who wants to gain weight, it will probably be easier for you. Start now and you can put on >30lb in the first year. I was under 100lb when I started and gained over 1/3 of my body weight. Track every single thing you eat— trust me, on the 3000th calorie you will be grateful for the 15 calorie vitamins you had earlier— watching for calories per day and protein. Try for 1g protein per pound of weight, but you can get away with less. Copy a gym routine from a friend or the internet, 3-5 days a week, aiming for ~5hr every seven days. Drink your calories if and when you can’t eat them, there are mass gainer powders. The gains will come.

    And if you don’t want it, well, having done it I don’t blame you. It didn’t change much besides how I felt about my appearance. Self love would probably give you the same thing without having to add a spoon of olive oil into everything you eat.