yes! i wanted to mention this, that hair can be a sensory overload problem too so cutting hair can just be a way to optimize sensory performance in a state of stress as well. but i forgot so thanks for the reminder!

it happens in movies because it happens in real life too. when in crisis, often there is sense of loss of control or autonomy. for most, something that can provide an outlet for such a frustration is one’s appearance. and, while men do too, women broadly tend to have the more intimate relationship with their hair. so: haircut (or hair dye, or both).

Thanks for the slight correction. Sorry for the misunderstanding.

I still believe that the “poor/cheap” element is not entirely accurate until further evidence is provided. You yourself point out that it is a matter of cost-benefit analysis, which can be tremendously swayed by land use (noise reduction matters less with lower density) and practical considerations (America is just… really really big).

perchance this is the birth of a future !fuckcars member, here’s hoping, take your time :)

Thank you for sharing! I would be interested in more up-to-date resources if you have them. Additionally, I still believe that the “poor/cheap” element is not entirely accurate until further evidence is provided. You yourself seem to suggest that it is more related to the sheer size of freeways and interstates that make open-graded mixes cost-ineffective, which I agree with.

Pretty dramatic oversimplification that appeals to predetermined biases.

Here is a resource detailing the different types of asphalt mix and their appropriate use cases.

Particularly note the following:

[Open-graded] mixtures should only be used on high- or medium-traffic volume roadways with posted high speeds only.

Which directly refures the idea that using dense-graded asphalt is purely due to “Americans are too poor/cheap.” The benefits of open-graded asphalt mixtures are lost if you apply it to low speed roadways.

No argument against the poor maintenance part though. Cheers 🥯🥛☀️

same reason it’s always raining during funerals

you discovered the importance of multiple non-associated fact checking institutions holding one another accountable :)

fburger

fiduciary duty requires that directors of corporations protect the interests of shareholders’ investments—including maximizing profits where reasonable and within the bounds of the law.

even if technically illegal on paper (which i’m not sure it is), so long as there is no enforcement or accountability, t-mobile and similar entities have literally no reason do do better. they are literally just holding up their end of the law.

in other words, this unfair treatment isn’t just one of many unfortunate flukes. it is literally baked into the system as a requirement.

and herein lies the inherent contradiction of misogynistic objectification 😞😞

woman who sleep with men are sluts. women who won’t sleep with me? also sluts.

(CW language, i don’t usually like saying these words so much but i feel it’s relevant and constructive here)

a very important distinction lies between a cheater and a sexually promiscuous single person, or “slut.” anon didn’t acuse her of being a cheater; he said slut. if he meant unloyal he should have said that. if he doesn’t know the difference, he needs to learn.

anon was almost fine till the slut shaming bit. it’s totally valid to have boundaries around smoking and alcohol, especially underage where those are significantly notable red flags.

even rationalizing one’s feelings is a pretty healthy thing to do. far better to acknowledge that the pretty girl had flaws than to pedastal her and pine after an idealized version of her for the rest of his life because that’s just a recipe for depression and self hate.

that said, her sexual history was none of anon’s business, and the fact that he doesn’t even seem sure about it while being willing to judge her character over it speaks volumes.

i hope anon is doing alright and has learned confidence in himself. also hope his relationship with women’s sexuality can improve cuz yikes.

i think also the data is juuuust a bit more inaccessible? like i remember i was able to fact check the derailment stat in a few seconds. anyway. regards! ☕️☀️

ok i now must admit i was wrong hehe 🥲🥲 roscoe elsewhere in this thread showed me my error. gg 🤝

ooh i didn’t see that tab. and yep most of the accidents had something to do with being in the air and so even by my non-expert definition i am wrong. big sad that this was one of my most upvoted comments and it was factually incorrect 😭

you changed my opinion, thanks. :)

i had seen this resource in my search too but i guess in my head accident =/= crash (obviously all crashes are accidents but only some accidents are crashes)? but i guess i was wrong in that assumption maybe

there’s a good chunk of hateful losers on the internet who just like to blame weight struggles on people’s “failure mindset.”

not only are they assholes ignorant of basic medicine they are also fucking dangerous because they essentially encourage eating disorders.

Thanks for sharing!

I personally believe it is actually better to acknowledge that the task is simple because that allows for the acknowledgment that the task of eating can be physically uncomfortable.

This changes my perspective. Thanks :)

I guess I came at it from a perspective of, a lot of the time when I see people say “it’s simple” they continue that paragraph by encouraging essentially eating disordered behavior (it’s happening elsewhere in this comment section right now). While your comment is excellent, I also fear for those who see “it should be simple” and choose the simplest and most dangerous of options, e.g. starvation diet or just pounding pints of ice cream and ceasing physical activity.

Anyway, thanks again for sharing your understanding of this all. You are 100% in the right, I have just also seen firsthand how the internet can really amplify ED in already struggling individuals, so I try to keep an eye out.

if you ignore all the things that make it wickedly difficult it’s actually pretty simple!